Friday 30 March 2012

Drive By - Train

Hai ..

Mood sekarang suka sangat dengar lagu neh .. kat radio pun selalu je main lagu neh .. lagu yang catchy best didengar dengan muzik rancak yang membuatkan kaki rasa nak bergedik-gedik .. jom layan korang .. ade lirik jugak so korang boleh layan sambil nyanyi kuat-kuat sampai jiran sebelah korang rasa nak bagi penyepak kuat-kuat .. :p






Drive By Lyrics

On the other side of a street I knew
Stood a girl that looked like you
I guess thats deja vu
But I thought this can't be true
Cause you moved to west L.A or New York or Santa Fe
Or where ever to get away from me
Oh but that one night
Was more than just right
I didn't leave you cause I was all through
Oh I was overwhelmed and frankly scared as hell
Because I really fell for you
Oh I swear to you
I'll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
Hefty bag to hold my love
When you move me everything is groovy
They don't like it sue me
either way you do me
Oh I swear to you
I'll be there for you
This is not a drive by
On the upside of a downward spiral
My love for you went viral
And I loved you every mile you drove away
But now here you are again
So let's skip the "how you been"And
get down to the "more than friends" at last
Oh but that one night
Is still the highlight
I didn't need you until I came to
[ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/drive-by-lyrics-train.html ]
and I was overwhelmed and frankly scared as hell
Because I really fell for you
Oh I swear to you
I'll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
Hefty bag to hold my love
When you move me everything is groovy
They don't like it sue me
either way you do me
Oh I swear to you
I'll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Please believe that when I leave
There's nothing up my sleeve but love for you
And a little time to get my head together too
On the other side of a street I knew
Stood a girl that looked like you
I guess thats deja vu
But I thought this can't be true
Cause
Oh I swear to you
I'll be there for you
This is not a drive by
Just a shy guy looking for a two ply
Hefty bag to hold my love
When you move me everything is groovy
They don't like it sue me
either way you do me
Oh I swear to you
I'll be there for you
This is not a drive by



Sri Lankan Veggie Food



Lunch tadi ikut kawan-kawan india kat office pergi makan Sri Lankan Veggie Food .. kenyang gila .. gambar tu hanya separuh dari dishes je .. ade lagi .. semua memang sayur la .. tapi boleh tambah .. dan tak cas pun untuk tambah nasi dan semua jenis veggie tu .. ada satu sup sayur dan sup kaler putih .. saya tak rasa pun .. sup sayur tu saya telan sampai separuh gak ar .. sebab rasa cili yang dijeruk then dikeringkan .. dia rasa lain macam tak tau nak cakap .. pencuci mulut ada bubur versi india punya la .. bubur sagu tapi letak rempah-rempah so saya tak boleh nak telan .. just rasa siket je ..


Saya paling suka yang macam salad kobis unggu tu .. ape ntah nama die .. tu sedap .. rasa pedas dan masam .. macam kerabu siket .. yang tak ade dalam gambar pajeri nenas .. tapi ni istimewa hari jumaat sahaja .. kalau hari biasa hidangan veggie ni cuma terdiri dari 7 jenis veggie sahaja .. sebab excited sangat tadi so tak kira pulak ade berapa jenis ..


kalau bab rasa pulak bagi saya okay la .. sedap .. tapi ade jugak yang saya tak boleh masuk .. macam dal die tu .. saya tak makan .. kawan office yang sorang ni pulak suka .. siap tambah-tambah dal .. yang sorang lagi siap 3 kali tambah .. badan keding je .. haha .. menu die memang semua sayur jelaa .. kalau nak tambah ikan atau ayam tu kena order asing .. tapi saya tak order pun sebab tengok makanan dah penuh daun pisang dah ..


mula-mula masuk restaurant tu macam alamakkk .. nak makan sini ke .. kuatnya bau die .. saya dah tengok offficemate melayu ni .. saya tengok die, die tengok saya .. lepastu Gauri yang tukang bawak datang jalan-jalan cari makan tu cakap ada bilik VIP kat sebelah .. okay .. baru rasa lega .. lepastu terus excited bila pelayan mula letak daun pisang dan atur macam-macam jenis veggie .. tak sabar nak rasa .. setiap orang makan mungkin kira 1 set la kot .. sorang RM10 .. okalahh kenyang .. :)

Wednesday 21 March 2012

Sungai Bulu ..

Conversation


Stranger : Akak, itu aaaa .. pergi sanaa .. sungai bulu .. manaaa??

Me : Sungai bulu?? kat mana??Rawang ke??

Stranger : Bukan-bukan .. Sungai bulu ..

Me : Sungai bulu .. hmm xtau laa ..

Stranger : Akakk mau pegi manaa??

Me : Seremban (actually nk blk kajang)

Stranger : Itu Seremban pergi sungai bulu??

Me : Aaaa x .. x pergi ..

Stranger : Tak apa aaaa .. senyum-senyum dan berlalu pergi ..



Dan aku .. mula berfikir .. kat mana dia ni nak pergi sebenarnya .. sungai bulu .. tak penah dengar pun .. then TING! .. ohhh demmmmn .. SUNGAI BULOH kot .. terus melilau carik lelaki tadi .. ok dah jauh .. nasib kau lah .. hmmm tulaa .. bukan salah i okayy .. lain kali sebelum datang Malaysia belajar cakap Bahasa Melayu dulu .. sebut la betul-betul sungai buloh .. ni sungai bulu .. mana lah aku tau .. sugai gadut aku tau la sebab hari-hari naik ..


tak tau la lelaki tu orang mana .. Mynmar kot .. kalau indon faham je ape yang diorang cakap .. entah-entah pilipina mali .. mcm kesian pulak lepas tu .. harap-harap betul la train yang diorang naik ke "sungai bulu" tu .. haha ..




Sekian mereportkan untuk blog lovecintanana .. terima kasih ..

Location : Stesen Komuter Putra

Time : 6.30 pm



Tuesday 20 March 2012

Short bob hairstyles ..

Hyep ..

Dah lama sebenarnya mengidam nak potong rambut .. nak kasi potong pendek punya bagi nampak ala muda remaja gittewww .. haha .. takde lah sebenarnya saya rimas rambut panjang .. kan dah pakai tudung sekarang .. rambut saya yang asli straight dah jadi asli curl dah tau .. asyik duk belit-belit dalam tudung .. lagipun dah lama tak rambuit pendek .. since couple ngan MA die tak bagi potong rambut .. dulu kan free hair .. MA suka gugurl rambut panjang .. paling pendek pun pernah potong 2 tahun lepas .. tu pun paras bahu aje ..


So sekarang ni memang tengah bersemangat nak potong rambut .. dah mintak izin ngan MA pun .. cehhh mintak izin bagai la plak kan .. hoverrr .. hehe .. tapi terselit jugak la ketidakyakin diri ni .. kan jadi ntah ape-ape plak .. konon-konon nak nampak cute .. alih-alih nyesal .. tak nak la macam tu plak kan .. so tadi duk google contoh-contoh short bob hairstyles .. para retisss ni memang la cantik kan .. gaya ape pun cantik .. jom la vote for me yang mana agak-agak sesuai dengan saya .. rasa macam nak edit photoshop je gambar diorang letak muka saya .. ahahaha .. okeyy apekan daya .. tak pandai guna photoshop .. jakun ..


1) Sangat cantik .. tapi adakah saya akan secantik ittewww ??? oh helloooo .. haha



2) Yang ni pun suka .. sebab rambut saya memang kacau bilau sekarang so budget kalau potong jadik camneh!!



3) Yang ni comel sebab dia super comel .. tak mungkin !!




4) Yang ni pun comel .. tapi agak pendek sangat ..




5) Yang ni pun okayy ..



6) Ini pun suka gak ..



7) Yang ni biase je .. tapi sebab kaler rambut itam so list jugak ..



8) Okey maybe yang ini .. mane tau boleh jadik cute macam agnes .. dushhh .. haha



yappp .. itewww jelaaa list nyeh .. okehh ..mai kita paqaq pikiaq dulu meh .. haha .. okey lah malam ni nak mimpi dulu yang mana satu paling chomel .. hahaha .. hmmmmm b tolonggg ..

Sentap hati mak nak ~!!

Assalamualaikum ..


Yerr sekarang ni saya amat lah mudah sangat sentap .. siket-siket sentap .. merajuk .. menagis .. kesian MA .. haha .. nak buat macam mana kan .. bila berjauhan ni .. saya lebih sensitif .. bukan sengaja dibuat-buat .. tapi dah nak sentap ..


Contoh la kan .. kalau lambat reply message .. sentap dah .. bila call pastu MA cakap macam takde mood je .. konon letih kerja .. sentap lagi .. bila ngadu lepastu takde respond yang diharapkan .. sentap lagi .. pastu bila MA salah cakap atau aku yang salah describe ape yang MA cakap .. sentap lagi hati mak nak .. hmm memang hari-hari kerja aku sentap jelaa .. sampai MA pun dah perasan .. kenapa ni siket-siket nak merajuk je .. auwww baru mak perasan .. haha ..


sorry la b .. sejak dua menjak ni .. hati memang mudah sangat tersentuh .. air mata pun senang je nak mengalir .. dah tu tak kira tempat lak tuh .. kat tempat awam pun boleh nak nages .. wat malu je tau .. wahai hati jangan lah engkau menjadi sangat kerdil .. bertabahlah engkau .. ya bertabahlah .. amin ..


Monday 19 March 2012

Genaplah sudah 2 minggu .. T_______T

Assalamualaikum ..


Genaplah 2 minggu MA meninggalkan daku .. huaaaaa .. T________T sob2 .. MA telah meninggalkanku seorang diri disini .. bersama perit jerih seorang yang bergelar wanita .. barulah daku sedar .. bahawa ketiadaan MA .. amatlah membuatkan jiwaku kacau dan siko .. uhuk2 ..


Sebelum diri ini tidak mempunyai kekuatan untuk menulis .. bila ingat je air mata pun bercucuran bagai air paip .. betul .. sungguh diri ku tidak menipu .. MA pergi meninggalkanku pada 5/03/12 dan daku iringi pemergiannya dengan air mata dan doa semoga dirimu selamat sampai ..



Okayy .. sudah2 ayat jiwang tak tentu hala .. actually MA dah start kerja .. start kerja je terus kena outsation .. jauh dan lama pulak tu .. wahhhhhh meroyan mak cik tau .. ditinggal seorang diri camneh .. MA kena outstation di kampung halaman kami kat Kota Bharu .. Ok lucky him boleh balik duduk rumah dengan mak apak dia .. but unlucky me .. terpaksa meroyan selama 3 bulan .. @______@



Memanglah daku sangat bersyukur kehadrat ilahi kerana MA dapat kerja setelah selama 2 bulan jobless selepas habis study .. tapi tak sangka pulak kena kerja jauh macam tu .. Office kat Ampang tapi kena jaga site kat Kelantan .. dah tu kan .. nak suruh pergi cepat-cepat pulak .. start kerja terus kena balik Kelantan .. nasib baik kampung kat Kelantan ..



hmmm .. 2 hari jugak la mak cik meroyan + siko .. bukan ape la kan .. pass 3 years ni memang kitorang tak berenggang pun .. actually hubungan kami dah masuk 6 tahun .. tak penah on off okayyy .. stay cool aje .. ade la gaduh siket-siket .. lau takde tu tipu lah kan .. tapi tak penah la gaduh lama-lama .. so bila kena berpisah macam nio .. sedih la mak cik .. mak cik kan sensintip lebih .. manjo lebih ..



Dah masuk 2 minggu ni baru lah boleh kontrol sket emosi neh .. tak dah nak nanges2 tak keruan tak tentu hala .. dah boleh terima kenyataan dan redha MA pergi kerja carik duit ntok kawin .. okayyy lega siket hati .. haha .. tensi tau sedih-sedih camneh .. hormon pun dah tak stabil .. hishhh .. pishh2 jauh-jauh emosi ..




Sekarang barulagh boleh nak apply tips sendiri yang saya tulis dalam entry Ucapkanlah Cinta tuh .. haaa pandai sangat kan nak tulis entry macam tuh .. padan muka dahh .. kan dah kena batang hidung .. ucaplah cinta hari-hari cik nana oiiii ..



Tapi betul la ape yang saya bagitau dalam entry tuh .. bila berjauhan macam ni baru la rasa nak say I LOVE YOU and I MISS YOU .. kalau tak hareemmm .. sape-sape yang baca entry ni tolong la doakan semoga jodoh kami panjang ye .. kekal sampai ke jinjang pelamin .. bila camni masing-masing nak kumpul duit nak kawin cepat-cepat .. wahhh i like baby .. doakan kami ye kawan-kawan ..


p/s : I LOVE YOU and MISS YOU

Thursday 8 March 2012

10 Ways to Avoid Marrying the Wrong Person by Heba El-Haddad



There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.  One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.  The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.  




The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc. 




Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.  If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:




1) Do Not Marry Potential:  Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.




2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:




Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.




Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?




Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.




Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.




3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:  Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief. 




It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.




4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans:  In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”




The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with. Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.




5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual/Physical Activity: Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.




Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them. Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.




6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:  There are four questions that you must answer YES to:


Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?


Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?


Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?


Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?


If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!




7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage.  When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.  Look for the following things:




Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time.  Know the difference between suggestions and demands.  Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.




Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc.  You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment.  Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds.  If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away.  Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.




Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:  Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!




9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility: It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.




10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner:  Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:




Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.  They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.




Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!




Additional Points to Consider:




The fact is no one looks 25 forever.  Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance.  When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.




Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc.  We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”




Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc.  Asking clear questions can clarify this.  Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?”  “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.




Be flexible.  Be open-minded!




Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom.  It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.




Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health.  The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship.  If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you? The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss.  Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage.  Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.  Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.


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